You’re Doing Better Than You Think

You’re Doing Better Than You Think: A Reminder for Every Overwhelmed Mama.

Let’s get one thing straight right off the bat: I’m not a fan of the classic pep talk.

You know, the overly peppy “You got this!” that seems to come with a high dose of energy that’s completely unrealistic for most of us. It’s just not my style. And trust me, I’ve had friends who love to dish it out just to get a rise out of me.

But today, I want to tell you something—and it’s not a pep talk. It’s the truth: You’re doing better than you think. If you’re anything like me, you’re probably your own worst critic when it comes to motherhood.

You have this running checklist of things you could have done better: That mess in the kitchen that you never quite got around to cleaning. The meltdown in public that left you feeling embarrassed and defeated.

The constant juggling of work, kids, and life that leaves you feeling like you’re dropping every ball. Sound familiar? Yeah, I get it.

But let’s pause for a moment. Because there’s another side to this story. It’s the part we often overlook.

The Small Wins We Don’t Celebrate
This morning, I spent time out on the lawn, pulling out bindis so my kids could run around barefoot without getting hurt. It wasn’t a big deal—just a little task that seemed necessary. But it got me thinking. How many times do we, as mothers, do these small, seemingly insignificant things for our kids, without even realising how much they matter?

Like making sure they have a snack they love after school, or reading them the same bedtime story for the hundredth time because it’s their favourite. These are the things that make up the essence of motherhood. It’s not always about the grand gestures. It’s about the little moments we create for them, day after day, that show them they are loved.

But here’s the kicker: because we do these things without fanfare, we often forget that they count. And they do. Every single one.

Let’s Talk About Expectations
Motherhood comes with a lot of pressure. Not just from society but from within ourselves. We’re constantly bombarded with images of what “good” motherhood looks like. The perfect Instagram photos, the spotless houses, the kids who never seem to have a meltdown in public. And in comparison, we feel like we’re falling short.

But let’s be real. Motherhood doesn’t happen in those Instagram squares. It happens in the mess, in the middle of the night, in the moments when you’re just trying to hold it together while your kids are melting down.

We don’t get a manual when we become mothers. We’re learning on the job, and often, it feels like we’re just winging it. But guess what? That’s okay. No one knows what they’re doing all the time. Even the moms who look like they’ve got it all figured out? Yeah, they’re winging it too.

Doing the Best With What We Know
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned over the years is that I can only do my best with the information I have right now. Looking back, I sometimes wish I could have done things differently with my firstborn—been more relaxed, trusted my instincts more, stressed less about the small stuff. But I didn’t know then what I know now. And that’s okay.

We evolve as mothers. We learn. We adapt. And that’s part of the journey. What’s important is that we show ourselves compassion for the things we didn’t know at the time. When we know better, we do better. But we have to stop expecting ourselves to have it all figured out from day one.

You’re Doing Better Than You Think
It’s easy to focus on the gaps—the things you wish you could have done differently or the ways you feel you’re falling short. But here’s the truth: You’re doing so much better than you think. You’re showing up. You’re caring for your kids. You’re making sure they know they’re loved. And that’s what matters.

So today, I want you to take a deep breath and give yourself some credit. You’re doing the best you can with what you have, and that’s more than enough. You’re enough. You’re more than enough.

Let’s Do This Together
The thing about motherhood is that it wasn’t meant to be done alone. We need each other. We need the support, the encouragement, and sometimes just someone to say, “Hey, I see you. You’re doing a great job.” That’s why I created The Village. It’s a place where we can come together as mothers, share our experiences, and remind each other that we don’t have to do it all on our own.

In The Village, we lift each other up. We share the tips and tricks we’ve learned along the way, and we remind one another that, yes, we’re all doing better than we think.

So, if you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, if you’ve been doubting yourself, if you’re just looking for a space where you can be real about the highs and the lows of motherhood—come join us.

Let’s navigate this together. Because you are not alone. You’re doing better than you think. And I’m here to remind you of that, every step of the way.